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Feeling Under Pressure

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"As we grow and get older, our minds are constantly changing. Sometimes it's best not to fight the change, but instead, roll with the punches."

Some Young Players on Yahoo! need help with their depression. An Aspiring Player responds with some good Wisdom and Game.

The Question:

Why do I feel under-pressure all the time?

im homeschooled and latly I've been feeling weird, Like Im under-pressure, i get nervous alot, i dose off constantly, i cant focus, i shake for no reason, i get depressed, and i dont know how to talk to people, i drink alot, and dont know who i am as a person.

im not how i used to be or how i thought i used to be, is this weird? My friends also think im "different"

The Response:


I think a lot of people are going through this "depression". And I apologize that I can't give you a good answer, but right now I'm stressed out myself (work, girlfriend, and job) but this is how I answered a question similar to this a little while ago. I hope it helps or maybe you can expand on it and help me out too.

Also check out my answers. A girl asked a question about her boyfriend and she was going through a kind of "depression" too. See if that can help you. I hope things get better for you and stay strong.


Not looking for sympathy...just answers?

If you met me today you would think I was the happiest go lucky person you've met, however on and off in my life I have been consistenly depressed.

Its not ALL during the year but when I do get depressed it gets to the point of me wanting to find a gun, even though I know I would NEVER pull the trigger, but the thought is still there.

I dont let anyone see me this way, but alone by myself (in my room, and in my head) I feel as if the world is moving but I am not, and honestely my body feels numb (like the numb you feel when you lose somebody close to you) and not to sound "girly" but I also feel that I am on the verge of tears (and yes sometimes "do" cry)

What I was wondering is this a normal depression that everybody goes through, or a depression where I just need to find a hobby to clear it up?

PS I really am not looking for sympathy, just want to know if anybody went through this and what did they do about it.

PSS Please no "I am on the rag" jokes.



But I don't have a solution yet.

I think I know what's causing it but I don't believe it's one thing or even a couple of things... In fact, my solution may be different from the solution you need... more in a minute (gf calling).

I have never talked about depression before. And I have only known a couple of people well enough to admit that they were depressed but they were depressed for different reasons.

One was depressed because of lack of money and the other was depressed because her boyfriend wasn't taking the relationship seriously enough for her - she was ready to get married and he was still bouncing between her and his Ex.

But I think for a lot of people, they are depressed because they are wondering "who they are", or what their "calling in life" is, or what should they be doing to be successful, etc. But this isn't a bad thing. The problem is being able to CONCENTRATE and FOCUS on what you
really need to do to be "successful" and to find INNER PEACE....

Maybe "counseling" can help some people but it's what happens afterwards that I think a lot of people worry about. We don't want to have "mental health problems" putting a black mark on our lives or reputation. We don't want to have to pop pills that might make us crazier or "worse off" than we already are. We don't want to be stereotyped or labeled as "nuts" or "looney". And so on and so forth.

Again, I don't have a solution, but I think some of the reasons for not feeling good about yourself could be:

Not being assertive enough
Feeling helpless (or broke)
Not knowing how to communicate your feelings effectively
Not having the right motivators in your life
Not being able to get organized
Trying to be Perfect
Not having a mentor or mentors
Not having the kind of money or lifestyle you would like to have
People not taking you seriously
Unable to focus on one project or idea at a time (maybe ADD)
Constantly worrying about how crazy the World is
Inconsiderate or Irresponsible people (and idiots) in your life
Not having a close friend or someone you can trust or depend on
A boring job that you don't hate enough to leave
Doing something or some kind of work you don't want to do
Stuck in a rut or bad luck
Being stuck somewhere you don't want to be
Trying to please and cater to other people instead of trying to please yourself
Too many responsibilities, chores, or duties (making it hard to stay on track or keep up)

A lot of things can cause depression. It really depends on what you want out of life or what you want to accomplish. It also depend on what you want but what's hard for you to get... And you have to be
honest with yourself about it. What do you really want and need? How bad do you really want it? What can you do without?

When you know what you want, then you can establish some goals or a route to get whatever you want. You can create a "masterplan" to improve your life. You may even be able to "catch up" with the rest of the World before too much time passes you by.

I've been depressed over half of my life and I've gotten to the point where I really don't like being bothered with people because the people in my life aren't "on the same page" I'm on. We don't really "click". Even my girlfriend doesn't really understand me. She loves me to death - and I don't know why. (She fusses at me all the time, debates almost every opinion I have, and doesn't follow-through on her words most of the time). Yet I have visitors and people calling me all the time - every single day - and I hate it to be honest. I just need time to myself so that I can think and work on my life without any distractions or intrusions. But this really isn't a good thing...

You should interact with people and network and learn new things relating to what you want to do. Or, new things that can help you in your personal life. Just like I read what you wrote about you being depressed... I thought I was the only one!

And I don't care anymore. I don't care if people know I'm depressed or think I'm crazy. I'm learning what life is really all about. I know what I want, I have a good job, I have the best girlfriend I've ever had in my life (maybe with the exception of her "big mouth" - which I have
to tell her about it every week), and I have plenty of books, gadgets, friends, CDs, DVDs, websites, and what-nots, to keep me busy.

But find out what you want to do in life, what kind of relationship you want, and how you can improve yourself (communication skills, being more assertive, being more entertaining, whatever.) Just take your time and be cool about it. If you feel like you need a new style - switch your style up. If you hate your job, save so that you can make a "power-move" and quit. If you're lonely, reach out to more people and in the bunch, you may find a good friend.

Whatever you do, don't waste your time worrying about your past and your future. Work on whatever it is you need to work on today! This is one of main reasons people get "future shock" - it's because of procrastination! Don't dream about it. Be about it!

You can get over it, but it will take time and you can't give up.

I hope this can put you on a good path that'll help you out and I'm glad you wrote about it, because you've helped me too.

take it easy...

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